When Plans Don’t Work Out: My Journey to Finding a New Path

We’ve all been there—when life doesn’t go as planned, and our dreams seem just out of reach. Today, I want to share my personal story about how I faced a significant setback and found a new path.

A High School Dream: Moving Abroad

When I graduated from high school, I was itching for an adventure. My dream was to move abroad, study, and soak up all the experiences that come with living in a new country. However, I didn’t have a clear plan on how to find a job or a place to live. Naturally, I thought becoming a babysitter would be a safe bet. It seemed like a straightforward way to earn money and have a place to stay.

The Babysitting Plan

There was just one small problem: I wasn’t exactly a natural with kids. Now that I have my own, I feel like Miss Rachel, but back then, it was a different story. I did get some interest from one family, but after our initial conversation, they never got back to me.

The Waiting Game

Those months of waiting for a response were tough. I was filled with anxiety and self-doubt. The desire for an adventure abroad kept growing, but I felt stuck. It was a period of uncertainty that really tested my patience and resolve.

Moving Abroad Book Cover

Moving Abroad: Empowered from Inside and Out in a Foreign Land coming Spring 2025!

Taking Matters into My Own Hands

Eventually, I realized that I couldn’t just sit around waiting for things to happen. I started talking to people, exploring different options, and gathering the courage to go on my own. I wasn’t sure how the babysitting idea would have turned out, but I’m happy with the path I chose. It taught me a valuable lesson about resilience and adaptability.

Learning from Setbacks

In my entrepreneurship class during my bachelor’s degree, I learned an important lesson: the smartest people are those who know when to let go of an idea and start fresh with a new one. This resonated with me deeply. If you have a dream, you need to trust the process but also be proactive. Don’t just wait for opportunities to come to you—go out and create them.

Embracing New Paths

My journey abroad wasn’t what I initially planned, but it turned out to be an incredibly enriching experience. It’s a reminder that setbacks are often just redirections towards something even better. If something doesn’t work out, it’s not the end—it’s an opportunity to find a new path.

Your Turn: How Do You Deal with Setbacks?

I’m curious—how do you deal with it when plans don’t work out the way you wanted? Have you ever had to let go of a dream and find a new way to achieve your goals? Share your stories and strategies in the comments below. Let’s learn from each other’s experiences and support one another in our journeys.

Life doesn’t always go as planned, but that’s what makes it an adventure. Embrace the twists and turns, and remember that every setback is a setup for a comeback.

For more inspiration and insights on living a fulfilling life abroad, check out my post on “Ikigai: Finding Purpose and Fulfillment in Life Abroad.” And don’t miss my upcoming book on moving abroad, coming out in spring of 2025!

Recommend Reading

Jessica Gabrielzyk

Jessica Gabrielzyk is a Brazilian writer living in Switzerland. She moved there with her husband and daughter, who was three months old at the time and had strong opinions about the whole thing even then.

She writes about change.

The visible kind and the kind that happens inside a person, while everything on the outside looks fine.

Her first book, Maternity Abroad, explored what it means to become a mother far from the system you trusted. It has reached readers in more than fifteen countries across five continents. Parenting Unpacked, her second book, follows the experience of parenting through major life disruption, whether that's an international move, a career loss, a new baby, or a life that simply stops responding the way it used to. My First American Coloring Book was created to help toddlers engage with daily life in the United States through play and familiar imagery.

She is a member of SIETAR, the Society for Intercultural Education, Training and Research, and the International Academy of Brazilian Literature.

She writes for the parent who is still inside it, getting through the day, and wondering somewhere underneath all of it who they are becoming.

When she is not writing, she is walking forty minutes uphill with a stroller, telling herself the exercise is the point.

Previous
Previous

Inspired to Move Abroad

Next
Next

Hygge: Finding Balance and Connection Abroad