Confidence Does Not Mean Everyone Will Like You. It Took Me Fifteen Years Abroad to Believe That.
I have been living abroad since 2010. It took me fifteen years to actually believe that. Here is what changed.
We Were Using the Same Word. That Was the Problem.
We use the same words and assume we are pointing at the same thing. We are often not.
Two Things Can Be True About Living in Another Language
You can feel dumber in a second language even when you are not. You can be completely fluent and still exhausted by it. Both are true.
Huh? Am I a Minority?
During a SIETAR conversation intercultural psychologist Margery Pimentel said something that got a gasp out of me.
Nobody Here Knows You Were Good at That.
When you move abroad the people who reflected back your competence disappear. Global career consultant Renata Takacura explains why and how to rebuild.
Some People Do Not Like to Be Wrong. I Like to Be Right. There Is a Difference.
Here is what face theory, attribution, and epistemic humility have to do with why being wrong about a cultural observation feels different from being wrong about anything else.
I Am Not a Snob. This Is Just My New Normal.
I live a simple life. My underwear is from Primark. But do not take my robot vacuum. It costs 400 euros and it is absolutely my baseline now. That is hedonic adaptation in one object. Here is what it has to do with moving abroad and going back.
The Pressure to Succeed Depends on Where You Learned What Success Means.
Living between cultures means juggling competing definitions of success. Here is why the pressure to do more is often an inherited scorecard and how to recognise it.
We Are Pregnant. Are You Sure About That?
Samar Karam asked me whether I believe in we are pregnant. I said no. Here is the longer answer.
I Have Some Bad News. You Still Need to Sell It.
An author deleted me from every platform she could find me on because I asked her to explain her book club. Her response: it is a book club. I do not need to sell anything. She was wrong. Here is why.
Integrated Into What? Why Living Abroad Does Not Always Mean Belonging.
Here is where that question led.
Why Do Some Immigrants Try So Hard to Fit In and Others Simply Don't Bother?
The answer may lie in how their new country defines belonging, identity, and cultural membership.
The Marketing Underdog — Episode Three: I Don't Know How to Put This, But I'm Kind of a Big Deal.
The real numbers from month three of a public demarketing experiment.
You Can’t Keep Half Trying. I Wrote That. And Then I Did It Anyway.
My husband said something the other day and I realised I have been doing exactly that in Switzerland.
Is It My Birthday Today?
I am going to need a minute with this one because I have not even brushed my teeth yet.
I have been thinking about this a lot lately.
For some, a child is a reason to stay put. For me, the kid is in the carry-on.
The Lip Twirl.
This is what I figured out after almost ten years in Australia and one pandemic about my accent.
This Got Under My Skin.
Someone said women who dress revealingly are asking for it. That it is a man’s natural instinct. It fired me up.